Too many Chinese parents, the child’s daily needs in every possible way, the arrangements for the children’s spare time learning the many projects, music, painting, dance, language, etc.
Parents want their children will have great expectations mood is understandable, but this attempt to take the approach, will produce in their daily lives dependent children in learning to generate passive and negative emotions. This is extremely beneficial to the child’s growth. Child must independently assume responsibility for his life. Over protection of parents of children killed mercilessly creativity. What a child did not do, but learning can never be a genius. On the contrary, if anything from small to long we do for children, adult in the child, in the group will feel nothing, no confidence, no ability to get things done.
If parents do not listen to the child early in life the child to speak, ignoring the child, ignoring the existence of the child, the child will think that this is normal behavior, is the state of normal relations between people, so that children can not build self-esteem. So, if the child not act to respect other people and can not quiet down and listen to people speak, we could then determine, and the children closest to the child usually does not listen attentively to his speech, did not always possible to satisfy his desire, unintentional the child self-esteem damage.
When children do wrong, parents want to get rid of by critics to make the shortcomings of the child, we criticized him as a force of children’s behavior. When this force play in the child’s behavior, that is your criticism for his behavior, the child will move towards the direction you want to develop. Instead, the force of personality to play in the child’s value, that you attack the children as human values, would make the child feel that they have no dignity no value, and gradually lose self-esteem and value of true.
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