The late 70s of last century, children born in the early 80s called “first-generation only child.” In the new century, when Chinese society was still on the “independence generation” controversy, when one after another, their children – “Independence II” had come into the world began. “Independence II” than “independence generation” is more favorable growing environment, receive care more nuanced, even jokingly, “exalted even higher than the Pearl of the Orient.” At the same time, “independent second-generation” facing the highly competitive society, school and family education corresponding rise in pressure. Also looking forward to his family high into the eyes of high returns, these feast “After 00″ who has become the most tired people at home. Big bubble in the honey pot “after 70″, “After 80″ who, they can educate their children?
“After 00″: out of school to enter training
“6:30 am to get up in the nursery on the English, writing, arithmetic, and reading courses, attend afternoon kindergarten classes of international checkers; school after dinner to participate in painting or music transitions enlightenment classes; Saturday, Sunday morning to participate in piano and dance interest classes. “This is who lives in Wuhan, Wuchang District, 4-year-old girl Yu Yu week and a half living arrangements.
“Yu Yu began to register on the course of this year, is late, and she reported that the five classes, compared to around a number of children, and not that much.” Jade Jade’s mother, a university teacher in Wuhan Li Qing said, ” and she was a school child, on a lot of interest class than she, and 5 years old, 6 years old to participate in various Grading Test. ”
With the intensification of social competition, and improvement of people’s living standards, more and more attention to young children parents of pre-elementary education and specialty training, seems to spend more money to enable their children to start earlier, and more to master a specialty, the child in the future will stand out more than a bargaining chip. English, Mathematical Olympiad and dance, piano, calligraphy, painting, … … a wide variety of courses like a mountain, crushed “after 00″ infant’s shoulders.
“I’m the most tired people!” Yu Yu often murmured to the parents. Every day in school, training, family and bowed three, “After 00″ who physically and mentally fatigued. According to 2009 Blue Paper issued by the Beijing Municipal Academy of Social Sciences, said Beijing primary school students is too large amount of daily homework, sleep, lack of time, nearly 2 / 3 of the students reach the required 10 hours of sleep state standards.
Even more alarming is that parents do not respect the laws of science training methods. Comment reporter learned that children learn best time dancing and a half in four years, contrary to the physiological laws of the child’s physical development will cause great damage. But now, some kids just turned 3 years old, he was eager to succeed in life, the parents sent into the Phoenix force dance class training.
No right to choose “00,” so parents can only passively accept the arrangement, and the resulting mental health problems of children caused by increasingly grim. According to a 2004 survey data show that about 20% of children in China, depression symptoms, of which 4% of clinical depression, the need for clinical treatment of severe depression, mainly due to excessive pressure from the study.
“From the perspective of adults, children do not work, either to school or training course is playing, there was little pressure, but is not the case.” In Chengdu, from kindergarten teachers to teach for 10 years, said Wu Jie, “the children’s school bags into a trolley, ‘small glasses’ more and more. Although more and better living conditions, their happiness was declining, psychological problems tend to a younger age. ”
“Independence generation” of parents: anxiety and frustration
“Watching the kids to tired, actually, my heart than she tired.” Many “after 70″, “80″ after parents recognized the reason for “crazy” to the children reported that class, the root causes of an effort to ease the psychological anxiety. Li Qing said that his initial idea was to let her free, happy to grow, so she has long held a kind of jade jade is “stocking” attitude, not sent to any parent-child classes or interest groups. Yu Yu so long to 4 years old, she began to find gaps: the other kids to play the piano, dancing, writing calligraphy, jade jade but nothing will.
“A few years time, that my daughter is blind play, not play out any outcomes.” Qing Li said, “would be more between parents and teachers will be especially to those with expertise frequently praise the children, I do not worry all of these forced can not. ”
But in fact, the real force them to anxiety, a child in the face of practical problems such as school choice “competitiveness.” Although China’s compulsory education law, students should be based on location of the nearest residence to enter primary school, junior high, but the reality is that after the selection test, students can go to the domicile outside the focus of schools. Many parents of the idea is: Let the child have some pre-school arts, sports specialty, primary school and then participate in mathematics, English and other subjects excellent training, a number of awards in the competition was, admitted to the school focus on easy.
The “independence generation” of parents about children’s learning problems are familiar, but every child who when asked to take care of, usually to exchange problems and the children will become emboldened enough. Many parents to children’s course fees for a delivery, the child in front of a delivery to Die Ma, the first in a slip of the hands dispensers.
Xian Guo-Sheng Chen, 60, told members of the public Comment reporters that his daughter is an only child, childhood spoiled grandson was born, has been by the care of their old couple. “Grandson had lived with his parents for some time as a result, his mother consecutive overtime at night, his father loved playing games, children are smart, just a few days into playing games on the ‘wild’ kids.”
“Although after the ’80 ‘parents busy with work, less time to spend with their children, but we also have their own advantages, such as high levels of education, wide field of vision, more attention to children’s spiritual needs, educational methods are more detailed than the older, more scientific . “Kai Tak Education Service Co., Ltd. Guangdong employees Ho Li said,” we have no choice. We do not want the child to light his family tend to baby, and I want to arrange for him to play with other children, learning to get along and share, but out the door reinforced concrete high-rise is difficult to find the same age playmate. ”
Expert: cart before the horse will leave children in the shadow of life
In 2009, Nanming District of Guiyang City Bureau of Education issued an emergency notice, halt belonged to offer all kinds of time in the garden nursery interest groups and self-management fees charged the experimental class, the plan has met with many parents and even the arguments against. “At that time, every day parents call to complain against our education sector, as well as personal visits to ‘theory’, we are under tremendous pressure.” Ming Xiao Yun District Secretary for Education, said, “Now, our approach has been parents, schools understand and accept. ”
Xiao Yun that, despite this, social environment and test it in the root of the baton has not changed. She said: “The nursery is easy burden reduction, but a small rise of children facing the early management of the burdens on the primary measures, but rather the sense of forcing a variety of interests, training and excellent classes from the ground and turned to the underground.”
Central China Normal University, Doctor of Education Zhang Jibo receiving Comment reporters pointed out that the “independence generation” Although the economy is strong, but the subject itself, family, social and other factors, on the “00 after” Education in the “intellectual support weak personality, “” intellectual light weight moral “issues.
Zhang Jibo said that the current “00 after” the social environment faced by the “independence generation” of parents, they bring in the family “wealth funnel” bottom, you can easily get the most of the wealth of resources, such as economic structure easy to let the children do not know how hard and treasure; and children access to information, but also from “top-down” to “all sides” and decided on “after 00″ of education is bound to increase the difficulty.
“We need to get rid of utilitarian education, that is the fundamental goal of education is not training a variety of what ‘home’, but the physical and mental health, learning ability, and courage to overcome difficulties, to unite and cooperate with others, the overall development of the individual. Even to cultivate children’s specialty, should also be set based on the interests. “taught for 30 years from the first directors of kindergartens in Guiyang Zhang said,” our educational practice that parents force children to early start does not necessarily mean future success, stifle children’s nature might cause life-long negative impact. ”
“Big-year-old, old look old.” Zhang said, a child and is an important period for the formation of character, a healthy personality is the basis for success in life, as parents, should not this cart before the horse. Parents are their children the best teacher, still do walk away dispensers of “independence generation” should have provoked his family responsibilities as soon as possible, a good example for children, fully cooperate with the school.
Xiao Yun, said: “In the long term, to build social harmony, moral education is an important entry point. The government, families and the community must reach a consensus to change the ‘catch-me-intellectual education, moral education slide down’ status . “
